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Being a woman… IT SUCKS!!!! (Mature Audiences Only)


I’ve wanted to post on this subject for sometime but had always felt alone in my view.  After reading a post over at Minus the Bars (plus chatting with a girlfriend this weekend who feels the same), I now feel it’s time to write this ‘rant’.

I cannot STAND being a woman!!  Before I go on, let me be clarify.  If I were born a man, I’d probably be gay because I do like the male physique.  And when a man actually knows how to use his ‘tool’ or is knowledgeable of a woman’s body, well, I like what men can offer.  But overall, being a woman sucks!  Here are some reasons I say that;

1.  The ‘buds’.   They actually hurt like hell when they first start to grow.  They eventually turn into breasts but boy does it suck at the start.

2.  The mighty menstrual cycle.  My goodness do I remember my first as it was the achiest, painful part of becoming a woman.  At first I thought it was cool because “now I’m a woman” was my thoughts.  Not realizing that from there on– each month brings water weight gain, aches and headaches.  I can’t fail to mention that insomnia becomes a part of that as we get older.

3.  The “ogle factor“.  I cannot stand being gawked at.  I keep physically fit because I want to live a long, healthy life, not because I want to be slobbered after as though I’m a piece of meat or something!

3.  Becoming pregnant and the awful morning sickness.  Some women are only sick during the first 3 months but some of us are sick (nauseated from then) until the birth.   Imagine feeling that way for 10+ months!!

4.  CHILD BIRTH! Honestly, that shyt ain’t right!  You can split your innards (which requires stitches), you can poop during delivery, toss your cookies (that’s throw-up in lay terms) and you feel like you’ve been hit by a MAC Truck several days after.  And if you have to get a C-section, well…  that’s 6 extra weeks of misery.  (It ain’t right, I tell ya’!!)

5.  Cancer.  Not only are people concerned about cancer in general, but women have 3 extra areas of concern; breast cancer, ovarian cancer and cervical cancer.  I’ve come to terms that the parts that make us women may also kill us.  (Shyt ain’t right, I tell ya’).

6.  The “stirrups”.  I loathe GYNO visits.  You simply never get use to that cold hard steel being inserted inside of you while the Dr. says, “scoot down and relax”.  Yeah, right!!!

7.  Walking alone.  Seems harmless enough but if you’re a woman, that could potentially mean rape (and gang rape.)  Remember that NY jogger or the Puerto Rican Festival?  I like communing with nature.  It clears my head and makes room for creativity but I dare not walk alone anymore because of my gender.

8.   Freakin’ parking garages– see number 7 for that.

9.  Men who get us pregnant and leave.  Need I say more?

10.  Unequal pay.  Although we’ve made leaps and bounds in the workplace, we are still not valued the same as men.  They still earn more than women.  There’s a reason why companies tell us not to discuss salary amongst our co-workers– women are still payed less.

11.  Physical abuse.  I’ll never comprehend how a man can strike a woman, but they do.  It seems as though that’s becoming a norm amongst some men these days.

12.  The “catty factor”.  I really hate that women will connive and try to ‘steal your man’ instead of us uniting more.  We hate each others hair, clothes, status– all of those trivial things that don’t matter.  We really should have figured out a way to become more united since there are far more women on earth than men.

12. Our ‘fist fights”.  Why pull hair?!  I think that is SOOOO WEAK!  Let’s fight like men or don’t fight at all.  (I personally don’t think women should ever get physical with each other).  We are only side shows for men when we pull hair (or weaves as it were in today’s world), rip off clothes etc.  And now, these fights are posted on the internet.  It’s a real shame that we subjected ourselves to this behavior because we are usually fighting over a dude that could give a shyt about us.  I am proud to say, that I’ve never fought over a man, BUT I’ve been accused of stealing a man without base.  My three fights were based on being called the N-word back in the 70’s.  (That’s when the entire world found that word offensive).  I didn’t need to pull their hair because my father taught me a move to put a muthafvker on the ground before they see my fists coming.  Not proud, just stating that he taught me a technique to defend myself.

13.  Our vagina can fall the f*ck out!  Yes, that’s right!!  Our vagina can fall out and can take our rectum with it!  I only learned of that shyt last year!  See this post:  “My Vagina…”

It’s funny, I can remember being around 8 years old as I hugged on my grandma’s shoulder crying that I just didn’t want to be a girl.  Seems my feelings at such a young age have finally revealed why I felt that way… being a woman is a life long struggle. It ain’t right, I tell ya.  I honestly can’t think of one advantage to being a woman.  Seriously, as hard as I try– I draw a blank but what do you say?  What’s the upside to being a woman?

“Rant and observation” ends now.

39 thoughts on “Being a woman… IT SUCKS!!!! (Mature Audiences Only)

  1. I thought I was alone because I really hate being a woman. I am gay but I do not like the luggage of womanhood. I can do without breasts and my period.

    Good (brave) post. But tell the truth, are you gay? For real, just tell me that your gay because otherwise I’m confused about the heteros. I see that I’ll have to bookmark this sight. I’m completely shocked about the vagina falling out. Thanks for the nightmares! hahahahahaha

    • Hi, m_doce71 and welcome to “our little family” at Why O’ Why!

      Oh gosh… didn’t mean to cause nightmares for you! lol! And no… I’m not gay. LOL. If I were I’d have no problem with proclaiming that. I have a few relatives and friends who are. I don’t approve but I also don’t discriminate. I figure that’s up to each person and their God.

      I am glad you could identify in some way with this post though. The burden of being a woman is under appreciated and overlooked in my humble opinion. And thanks for the “bravery” KUDOS although it’s not necessary… I’m just telling it like it is from my view. My period– SUCKS! The thought that my breasts might yield cancer completely SUCKS (and so on and so forth)! Shoot– the fact that I don’t feel safe during a leisure stroll COMPLETELY SUCKS. I guess I’d simply like to be free to be me, black or white, woman or man– can I just feel fee to be me? I suppose that’s my point. I’d seriously like to be void of anything that women must carry the burden of, is all.

      Jazz ;)

    • Hell, I wish my damned uterus would fall out, I’m sick and tired of its whims. Fuck perimenopause, it sucks ass!!!!!! Bleeding all the time really puts a cramp in ur sex life, fer real.

  2. I don’t hate being a woman but it is very hard being a woman and in the job of being a woman we get no respect. I feel that being a woman to most only has value when others can put you into that sex commodity box even to other women. It like every woman now only feels sexy if she is butt naked on a magazine or in porn and men only really like you when they feel that they have full control over you. A woman is no longer respected for her individuality at all anymore only when she can be manipulated by others. Even an educated woman has no value these days to the whorish woman which is just straight crazy to me. Being a woman in today world you need to know from the break what your value is and where is lays. Men no longer care to make a woman feel valueable not even when they are raising daughters at home and in many countries only the birth of a son matters while they sale there daughters into sex slavery. So yeah being a woman holds much sorrow and it feels like no one cares about us as the equal part of the human race species.

    • Well, you do feel where I’m coming from I see. What I can’t seem to figure out is why aren’t women embracing each other more? It’s bad enough that the world does seem to have a poor view of women (and young girls), but why can’t women be more united with each other? I can see real strength coming from that, yet we fight, steal each other boyfriends or husbands like it’s no big deal. SMH on all women for a huge missed opportunity.

      You bring up a good point about how some countries thought that the birth of a son was a child worthy of having unlike a girl. I don’t really know why I felt this way at such a young age. It’s weird to think that I could sense this even before things are as obvious as they are today, but I did…

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    • Hi there and welcome to the ‘family’! And gosh… you’ve made me blush! You found my blog on Bing? Wow! Gosh… you’re kind words have left me speechless and encouraged me to keep on!

      I hope you don’t mind that I mention that you’re from Sweden but I had to look up your locale because I thought you might actually be from the U.S. I can’t tell you how flattered I am by your kind words and that you’re so far away! I see that I may have to find an editor to help me out with flow and structure of my words (big smiles). And please feel free to include anything you find useful here. I only do this to bring some level of awareness whenever possible. Thank you so much for stopping by! I’m totally open to suggestions on topics as well so please feel free to send a note on a subject that fits the theme. Thanks again for your support!

      Blessings to you and yours,
      Jazz

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    • Hi spiele pc and welcome to the family! And my little blog “superior”? No way! (hahaha). I’m very flattered by your kind words! I’m also surprised that you found my blog from the other side of the world too! WOW!

      I recently added a “subscribe button” located near the top and left of the page. When you click it, you are automatically subscribed! Thank you again for stopping by, my friend and for your kind words.

      Take care,
      Jazz

  5. A google search of “Being a woman sucks” brought me to this page. If you happen to find that one thing that doesn’t suck about being a woman, please pass it on!
    Your list forgot to mention how having a vagina means you can’t drive or understand how a car works. How degrading it is to have some grease monkey suggest I need blinker fluid or a $50 air filter?

    • Hi Ms. Nomered!

      I just reviewed your comment and re-read my “rant” and I think I may have found one small thing that is an advantage to being a women. Although it doesn’t happen nearly as frequently as it once did (chivalry is almost dead) but I can say that most men will hold doors open for me as I enter or leave a building! hahaha

      And I totally forgot about the mechanics point of view of women! lol Thank goodness my stepdad is mechanically inclined and I can always run things by him before I take my car in for service. And if some mechanic tried to charge you $50 for an air filter, you are well within your rights to kick him square in the nuts! lol

      Thanks for stopping by and even taking the time to leave a comment on this one. People keep reading this entry over and over but for some reason are too shy to speak on it so you ROCK, lady! :)

      Jazz

    • The only thing I like about being a woman is that I can masturbate indiscriminately almost any time. Otherwise, it sucks being a woman!

      • Hahaha! Never thought about it before but you’re right! lol! I actually envy guys for one thing… they can pee anywhere whereas we always need a toilet! hahaha

  6. Let’s not forget the joys of perimenopause which I’ve been in for 14 fri@@in’ years now. Since I have uterine fibroids I’ve been offered the joys of a hysterectomy. (Find out the real story on that – not as simple as it seems!). Instead I’ll have the little hanging globs zapped by embolization. Only causes a little “severe pain” for a while. But I know about that. Hey, I’ve gone through labor and delivery. So at 53 I’m still menstruating. In fact, periods are now twice a month or more!! Dammit! When does it all end? I’ve told my husband more than once I wish I had been born male. All he says is, well, if that were the case you wouldn’t be with me. And your point is??? I still wish I’d been born a man. Life would not have sucked nearly as much! No achy boobs, no saggy boobs, no periods, no labor, no menopause, and most of all, no jerks asking me to “smile”. Think one guy ever says that to another?? He’d risk getting his ass kicked. Thanks for letting me spill my guts!! Hang in there sisters!!

    • Hahahaha! Okay… you were really feeling this article and I love it!!! I wanted to avoid the perimenopause aspect because I know most women are clueless to it but I was diagnosed back in 2006 and I’m mad as hell about that because none of my older girlfriends and even my mom gave me the heads up on that! Seriously, I thought for the longest, one day, my period would finally stop only to find that irregularity is what you get instead. And the hot flashes before the real hot flashes (actual menopause) ain’t right at all! I tell my hubby all the time– I don’t want to hear you complain about shit!

      “and most of all, no jerks asking me to “smile”” OH MY DAMN… WHAT IS THAT ABOUT?! hahaha I get that regularly with black men only for some reason. Seriously, is that their corny way of flirting? I find it very annoying because I’m just minding my business when out of the blue some “cleofus” will say; “smile little lady, it ain’t that bad”. WTH?

      I’m glad you stopped by to “spill your guts”– that’s what this post was about! You are not alone because I too really hate being a woman especially in today’s society. Men have it way to easy in this life. I loved your rant by the way! Heartfelt and funny as hell! :)

    • I am in the same boat, sistah! age 38, to my present 48, and I’m bleeding all the frikken time, which takes all the sex life away. I’m trying not to get a hysterectomy, but I almost dream about it at this point. I have no fibroids, but a thick endometrium, oh joy.

  7. Totally agree with EVERYTHING!! Esp #3&12! Also, why can’t I ever have a 2min quickie! No, its got to be a 20min oral sex session! I love sex, btw! But why wasn’t clitoral “nerve endings” put on the inside of the vajay-jay! Also, everything is filled in this world with half-naked women..mags,movies,commercials…makes a person irritated after 2much. Birth control. Can’t they make that for men!! It can only cause stroke, blood clots, mood swings, and migraines..okay? I want to take that now! Which I can’t take bc I get horrible side effects..so I can b constantly worried trying not 2become prego ugh. 1more thing, women get wrinkles in their face sooner than men..smtg 2do with thickness of our skin..fact. why o why!

  8. Hey. I loved your article.
    I’m so fucking pissed today. I went to the store to buy underwire bras… AAARGGHH!!! They suck! I hate bras. And boobs. Arrghhhh. Bras are so constricting.
    And I’m just 18 so I see all the discrimination happening in the teen world. It’s a bloody taboo for women to do anything. :@
    Also include the part where it’s SOOOO much easier for men to gain muscle/ loose fat and get fit. For women it takes fucking ages. Men are naturally so much stronger than women it pisses me off!!!!!! :@ :@ :@
    And the worst is the rape shit. Sometimes I feel like I’d rape a man. :@
    All pedophiles and rapists should be castrated and burned. :@ :@ :@
    I hate being a woman. :’C
    Anyway I think I’m going to stop cause I qant to cry now… Maybe it’s the female fucking hormones.

    • Hi Arya! First off… GREAT RANT! Try not to let the crown that is womanhood beat you down too much. Some days are better than others but dudes (mature men are really hard to come by these days thanks to some mothers raising boys and not men) do have it so much easier.

      Underwires do suck, don’t they? And I’m with you on men losing weight without trying. That’s that “20 extra pounds” of body fat we’re padded with for bringing forth life. I wish just once a man was born with ovaries, got pregnant and experienced childbirth. Just once, I tell ya’!!!

      And rapists are the weakest punks alive! I say castrate any man or boy who commits this atrocity! My personal opinion? Rapists/pedophiles/molesters never change as they don’t see this as some big deal AT ALL. And let the Most High handle them (don’t risk entering the for profit prison system). I mentioned in another comment that when those sick fucks meet their end, the demons who will be in charge of them are going to be very creative in exacting their revenge for their deeds here on earth. They will have an ETERNITY of sorrow. “Demon says to rapist upon entry to hell; You raped a boy in the butt, I’m fucking you in the NOSE!!!” Yes– they will be VERY CREATIVE.

      Keep your head up lady! :) Again– GREAT RANT! hahahaha

      Jazz

  9. I hate being female. That explains my alias, doesn’t it? (Given to me by my classmates when I was twelve, and has stuck ever since. I tell everyone to call me that. Only a few do.)
    I got my period at age 11. That sucked like shyt. And my “friends” were all, MY GOSH YOU GOT YR PERIOD OHMYGOSH YOU’RE SO LUCKY EHHHH
    My first thought: LUCKY?? You all are retarded a$$holes.
    I open the doors for people. It was my habit since I was ten, after watching an episode of a dumb drama serial where a woman was screaming at a man for not opening the door for her.
    When I was fifteen I got into a lot of fights which basically included black eyes, bruises, and cuts aplenty. No hair-pulling except for that once when her hair was so ridiculously long I felt compelled to do so.
    When I get my period I’m actually more cheerful than usual. I’m nineteen, by the way. I’ve never had a freaking period pain before; just once, when I was fourteen, but that was a stomachache, I think. I’m lucky that way, but still…
    I’m considering hysterectomy. And whatever shit operation you can do to remove your breasts. I’m a ****ing C-cup. Bras are damn uncomfortable, and I sweat like crazy wherever I go.
    By the way I’m not a lesbian/gay or anything. I just hate being a girl.

  10. I loathe being a woman especially being an unattractive pear shaped one. Also the fact that it takes forever to just look presentable – even more to look and smell good. Weddings seem to be for women and marriage for men i.e. makes some men seem more appealing than he was single. Even to this day it seems that women are just discarded material especially after the age of 18+, additionally if your “birthing window” becomes permanently closed. If men workout developing muscles many would be more than accepting but if women bulk up it would be considered gross (even if they get triple E implants). Despite all those “Dove” commercials, female support groups out there many will always feel inadequate and the lucky ones continually seeking validation. We live yet we suffer much longer with a mulititude of worries along with actual problems we face.

    • Hi Cree! I’ve been trying to figure out how to respond to your comment here as it a true commentary to our society’s short comings, I’m sad to say. I think I can summarize it by saying all of your statements reflect everything our ‘society’ has been fed through none other than TEL-LIE-VISION! And now what we have is a pool of ‘men’ who have learned to reach for the superficial rather than any substance. They have us wearing weaves, extensions, getting plastic surgery, liposuction, skin laser (to reveal new skin), there are mounds of ‘reality tv’ where “women” love to fight each other and most women don’t even learn to cook! And marriages these days seem to last as long as a kleenex after you’ve blown your nose in it! And I’ve never allowed one man I dated to try that crap of “pinch more than an inch” on me… not when so many men are walking around with b-cups! I personally think women should have learned by now that since we do live longer, we should be forging friendships instead of trying to get some wife’s husband. Whether we like it or not– our society imitates everything it sees on the idiot box. Shoot… isn’t our society’s behavior EXACTLY like what we see on Television? I personally am one of these people who believes there’s someone for everyone and I’ve never bought into getting married “before it’s too late”. When we are on our correct path those two souls will meet!

      “Even to this day it seems that women are just discarded material especially after the age of 18+”… REALLY?! I think “men” love little girls (I mean 18 year olds) cuz a lot of men are still 15 years old mentally! And it’s rare to find an 18+ man that is thinking of children and the average mature man isn’t really sure of our biological windows. Are they discarding us more frequently? Absolutely– we’ve lowered our bar! My father said; “A man will only do what you ALLOW him to do”. I believe that.

      I also think you’re being a little hard on yourself. We are all different. I’ve also known couples who may not look the match made in heaven (barbie/ken dolls) but their connections are real and genuine. Jan and Rodney from 1983 was my first example of that! And there are men out there who don’t care about the shape or weight of a woman– they recognize a good woman (that is, if they are matured men) and they will snag you up in a heartbeat! ;) Yours is the type of comment that almost makes me wish I had a dating company! I’ve matched 7 couples and 6 remain married to this day! :) You hang in there, Cree! “He’s” out there looking for you, I just know it! :)

      I’m so glad to see your comment… takes the dialogue to another level! Thank you sooo much for sharing your insight. Shows A LOT of strength, Cree! You rock!

      Jazz

      • Hey Jazz!

        Thanks for taking the time to reply.

        I am definitely considering plastic surgery overall and liposuction on the lower half of my body but of course I tend to prefer to spend on things like food and other survival items. I already wear hairpieces so that people will get aesthetically distracted and since that is the only compliment I get people accept me more this way. It is interesting that no matter how “unappealing” a man is he would treat “lesser” women with much disrespect in various ways. The pinching an inch business can be so annoying especially if after the fact he recommends the treadmill. I can imagine a dumbbell being thrown his way also. You are definitely right about forging friendships with other ladies but it seems like either a foreign concept for a few, for some others it is part of her man-stealing ploy, thinking you are hitting on them, social and career climbing, to stroke their ego i.e. the ugly or unpopular friend things and other variations.

        That was really funny i.e. old ass men going on 15 like Hugh Hefner and his child brides. Though yes I can see what you mean about some men’s maturity level and seemingly free pass to everything.

        Unfortunately due to a lot of media influences among other things whenever I hear a man say,”I go for personality,” all I can think of is that he could not score a “6-10″ female therefore desperate for any lay to come his way to up his game.

        CNN reports: “6 out of 7 couples are married according to Jazz’s (insert company name here) renowned dating service.” Actually, that is impressive considering the stories of blind dating epic failures I have heard about – nevermind those dating sites :S

        Again great blog!

      • HI THERE Cree!

        With such a perceptive mind, I can’t imagine that you’d truly give in (to the surgeries, etc.). I’d personally urge you not to go forward with that just because I truly dig what India Arie reminded us of (ALL OF US) in her song; “Video” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mq86e4Fhja0

        And these disrespectful “men” are not men at all– they are straight up losers and no one should want them anyway! Good men are actually out there but I’ve found that we need to be more inventive in the places we meet them. For example– JOGGING TRAILS!!! I walk or run them and am constantly approached. And confidence is truly underrated. If you don’t think you’re tha shit… they won’t either! My personal philosophy; “this is my pond and I’m the baddest swan in the muthafuka!” ;) I think the coolest statement I’ve read which is remarkably true was;

        “When we are each others’ compliment, there is no supplement”… we should all approach relationships with that thought in mind. Unfortunately, game playing has become so routine that people are missing out on one of the best parts of life– TRUE LOVE. But broken hearts break hearts (cuz we’re so dumb sometimes). It certainly isn’t right that some men get a free pass to just be slugs or there are old farts who marry ‘kids’ (cuz they still haven’t matured to the equivalent of their years) but try not to let that discourage you. We all have our destined mates. It’s all about growing until we get there and then that union comes. Immaturity or lack of self-discovery is a true handicap in any relationship. Use your time as a single women to enjoy you! :) I tell people constantly that I LOOOVE me, myself and I most of all cuz we get along just fine! lol Self love can’t be shattered by anything external. Don’t let this society fleece your money for surgeries that just may kill you not to mention the possibility of being permanently disfigured.

        As far as “my lil dating service” I think I’m pretty observant and these couples were simply meant to meet. I just threw gatherings and put them in the same space… fate did the rest! ;) Hey– if you’ve just got a 100K to put towards surgery… give it to me and I’ll put Match.com to shame!!! lol

        So glad you’re digging the blog, Cree! Can’t wait to get back at it fulltime which I hope is just around the corner! Catcha’ soon, ladybug!

        Jazz

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    • Well, that sucks, Joe! It’s a wordpress thing so I’m not sure why that’s happening but I’ll send them a note. Thanks for the heads up. The only thing I can recommend is to uncheck that box but you really only should be getting one instead of 4 of the same comments. Weird but I’ll look into it. ;)

      Jazz

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    • Well now… you’ve made me blush! You’re simply too kind! It’s always reassuring when someone gets the approach! Thank you Alissa and welcome to the party!

      Jazz

  13. Thanks for posting your rant here. I couldn’t agree more with the points you made.
    The monthly happenings in my uterus can and have really put a damper on my sex life.
    In addition to the discomforts of pregnancy and the pain of childbirth, the child you gave birth to could grow up to hate you so much that she’s bent on making your life as miserable as possible.
    I also wish I had been born male too then I could also be gay.
    I’m friends with a gay couple. They are so loving towards each other and so fun to be around.

    • Hi there, cgyuhvbji! I’m glad you enjoyed the rant! ;)

      I will say this, if your child is hell bent on “hating” you that means she was SPOILED! Kids don’t just hate their parents, they display that behavior when they’ve been spoiled and now those things they once got so easily are cut off! Think The Mendendez Brothers!

      Spoiling a child never prepares them for adulthood. I’ve always said, if you got it right, you’ll see it loud and clear when they are 2 years old. No such thing as the terrible 2’s– that’s the reflection of a child who was spoiled along the way. Even the Bible says (not trying to get all religious of course); “spare the rod, spoil the child”. Be firm with her and demand her respect especially if you gave her everything she wanted and then some! And shock her grown ass by yanking out an extension cord and beating the snot out of her! lol!

  14. Thank you very much for posting your Rant. I so agree with you that there is absolutely no upside to being female. I am so sick of it. At 53 I am sick of working like a dog and being underpaid. I am sick of being treated as an idiot because I don’t have a penis. As a woman I am apparently not capable of being analytically or technically inclined or having a valid opinion on any subject that does not involve cooking, cleaning or other domestic topics. I dare any man to tell me that I am not capable of fixing my own house, car, problems. Just try it fella and I will stick a crescent wrench up your nose while showing you exactly why my ideas and skills are just as valid as yours. And, since I am an engineer, I also get to suffer through making at least $20K per year less than my male counterparts, never getting promoted because of my gender, and being told that my attitude is overly aggressive (for a woman). Feh. Bite me. Men are expected to be aggressive. Women are expected to just sit back and accept what a man throws at them even if it is wrong.

    The body has decided that 30 hot flashes a day is to be the norm, and the boyz just stare at you in disgust as if you are stupid for allowing this to happen. At my age I am just fat, wrinkled and ugly and everyone just treats me as if I am supposed to be at home baking cookies for someone’s kids. My hair is falling out thanks to the hormone madness and my eyesight and memory is failing far earlier than my male counterparts for the same reason.

    Sex is boring, messy and painful. Who needs it? Have some slob try and impress you with his manhood while leaving you the mess? No thanks. Men have it made. Just a few strokes and they are pretty much guaranteed an orgasm. Women, well most of the time we get nothing but the mess, the pain and rarely do we have a really good orgasm. Men have it easy.

    One of the (many) things I hate about being female is that I get to suffer for the lunacy of other women and their choices. I was never able to have kids, so I was always the one that got to work extra and cover for everyone else and their kids “issues”, events and illnesses. Someone else wants a day off they blame it on the kids being sick and needing to stay home to take care of them – meanwhile I get stuck working to cover. The men just shrug it off and walk away saying it is my problem to cover for the other ladies. gah!

    Lastly. CLOTHES. Who the hell invented panty hose? Underwire bras? High heeled shoes? These implements of torture just make me uncomfortable, restrict my movement, irritate the living shit out of my skin and make me less able to walk properly. Why can’t I wear a nice suit with flat shoes so I can be comfortable and productive? Noooooo, never. Women are expected to wear uncomfortable, restrictive, hobbling or downright painful clothing just to be accepted. I am sick of the HR dipshit calling me into her office to tell me that my clothing is inappropriate because it is not feminine enough for the workplace. I wear flats (bad feet), dress slacks, a button down blouse and a jacket and I am treated like a slob. A man in the exact same style outfit would not be given a second thought. Why does anything I wear have a flipping thing to do with my capabilities or intelligence? I am twice as productive as the men in my company but I get paid less and am treated like crap because I am not a man.

    Being Female – I hate it, hate it, hate it. There is not one thing. NOT ONE thing that I have experienced as a female that would not be better as a man. (no, I am not gay).

    • This has got to be one of the funniest responses yet! LOL Wooo!!!! I love your honesty and frankness! Sorry for the long delay but have been super busy although I’m finally getting to a point of normalcy! Very funny, lady! :)

    • I just read your post and you are soooo right.I;m 55 yrs old and can relate to everything you stated I dont know what state you live in but I spent 23 yrs in the midwest a mans paradise.I live in portland Or now Its way better here but stupass men have pretty much wrecked everything in society.If i had it to do over again I would have been alot more selfish I would not have married both were to overentitled immature douchebags.As for other women i never found them to be supportive mainly petty backstabbers who always want a favor but can never return one.At 55 my bodys grossing me out when the hormones left my vitality left the house also. other things that happen to us females as we age i will not get into this is clearly not fair and i hate it. espcially when i see ugly wrinkled fat bald men our age who strutt their stuff like they think ther hot just because they still can get a mushy half boner. dont look foir justice dn this planet sister ut i do feel your pain and it is real

  15. Wow! thank you ladies for posting this. First of all, I am male. And I am eager to share my thoughts. I am 30 years old. This post really got me thinking. I truly feel for women, I know its not our choice to be either gender, but this is how our species is. Maybe some souls do reincarnate and are born again in a new gender. I respect women and I will not deny that I have been chauvinistic or sexist at some point. Mmm, I m not going to try to kiss up to the female sex too … no it is deeper than that. I envy you. You know that more men want to become women than the other way around. Why is that? Our society worships you. And I know while some women are disgusted with how the female image is exploited, I will say that because we live in a western society you have a whole world of opportunity. Equality in pay will come, women now graduate more than men. You earned it. What I will state in the following sentence will shock you I hope. “Women are truly supposed to be better in math.” That was the claim of Waldo Esteva, a teacher I once had who taught spiritual/metaphysical material sometimes using the books of Carlos Castaneda. Even though man claims to create, design and build stuff, you women are “more in touch with nature”. It is the same reason I think some animals perform better than us humans in memory exercises. I want to believe this. My mother is an accountant and I know she is a human calculator, I can never count(do calculations in my head) as good as her, and I am a Computer Science student. It was very interesting to see and view things from your point of view. I have come to some conclusions that sadly confirm what is ultimately the destruction of the family.

    As I read in the blog that a a good “mature man” out there would be one that probably was not raised by his mom only. You happen to agree not with me, but with the antifeminist group “Return of Kings”, a group of men bloggers ranting on how the men on western societies have become “Beta” due to empowering of women after the feminist movement who became independent and raised kids on their own. Betas, male worshipers of the female sex are abundant and are whining little insecure men. On the other side is what we men should be… an “Alpha” male , confident, a man who tries not to please her woman, but to seek pleasure from her. A Beta will cyberstalk a girl he likes in Facebook and send her a wink, some kind of pussy signal, and maybe self defeat himself in thinking he will not have chance with her. But an Alpha will meet her up with no problem and IF HE LIKED HER, if she had the qualities or stuff that interested him(not necessarily good looks) he will go to Facebook AFTER meeting her to verify what she said was true. Anyways you get the idea.

    We as men today, suck. I know. We are not the Clint Eastwood type etc, And believe me, you have all my respect in being a woman. Peace.

    • What a rather odd and pointless posting, IMHO. Let me give you a little advice fella, stop classifying women, or anyone for that matter, is just a sign of a lazy person. Saying “women do this”, or “women want that”, just pisses us off because you seem to think that every woman is the same and that we all think with half a brain or only care about clothes and makeup. And, of course, anyone who would envy women in general is a fool. Unless, of course, you have some bizarre image of what a woman *is* that is completely counter to the whole concept of individuality. No two women are the same just as no two men are the same. Categorizing and pigeon holing someone because of their gender is a big mistake. Every man and woman is a unique individual capable of pretty much anything they put their mind to… unless, of course, that person is denied access to an opportunity or judged to be inferior or superior simply because of their gender. How about you just take people as they are and trying to apply your own. Next time you want to envy a woman for anything, try putting a tampon up your butt, shoving your shaved legs into a pair of panty hose and wearing heels, then try to run for a bus.

  16. Im 55 yrs old ans yep I HATE being a female for so many reasons. first lets start with what i call the pretty pretty shit that gets shoved down your throat from early childhood.everything boring and mudane as a kid i did so much f g housework i feel cheated because while my brothers had real fun i was sweeping dirt piles.now for the big one god help your ass if your not a classic beauty.the teasing the bulling i got was horrific ok so i was a homely kid bone thin big nose bright orange hair…everyday i got reminded what a f g loser i was for just takig a damn breath.nobody was my friend all my life ive watched asshole men fall for these pretty types that are mean petty bitches who cant stay faithful while womwn like me have to settle for the bottom of the barrel types..or be alone.i hate society as much as i hate being female its hard to try to love god when he knew from the start how painfulit would be its like thanks god ok im done but believe me i dont talk about what i dont know straight up and it gets worse when your an older woman mengo out of their way not to look or speak to you no respect at all i think this generation of men is just about the worst yet

  17. I absolutely hate being a women. I’m 20. I always have been. I’ve always found it hard to do stuff I love that to guys are perfectly easy. They don’t have to worry about finding a washroom to pee in at a concert that isn’t gross and disgusting. They don’t have to have periods. Or deal with pregnancy. Or have expectations of a physicallity if what they need to look like. If I’m plus size I have go go to a 14+ store. Men can find up to triple XL in normal stores. But woman have to be singled out. Camping sucks cause you can’t really pee. Being a woman sucks. And there is not a single postive to that. Men get all the glory. Life just sucks for a lot if women. Don’t see as many men complaining.

    • The only time men complain is when they have colds. lol. They have it far more easier no doubt. And I do wish men gave birth. I’d LOVE for that to be their responsibility. Hang in there, Nadia. One day we’ll get to ask God what was the punchline to THAT one! :)

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